Twist Of Fate's blog: "Life's Lessons"

I have heard and even asked the question "Why do you love me?" probably a thousand times and when the answer was cause I do I always said that’s not an answer. Well the more I think about it maybe that is the answer.. I mean if they say cause of your cooking or your looks or any of the other hundreds of reasons we give daily what happens if those things change?? We are constantly changing and evolving so maybe the cause I do is the right answer..

I have always said that love is seeing someone just the way they are flaws and all (cause whether we want to admit it we all have flaws) and excepting that person just the way they are whether they be stubborn or a procrastinator.  Its part of what makes them who they are so we need to except those things instead of trying to change them.  I guess the big question is do I love this person enough to live with their flaws? Maybe that is the question we should ask instead of why do u love me??

When we first meet someone we "put out best foot forward" so to speak.. So in other words we aren’t ourselves  We show them the version of us we want them to see maybe the version of us we wish we were.  Well I say to hell with that be who you truly are. If you are most comfortable in jeans well wear them instead of the dress pants. We worry they wont like us but then we don’t show them us, we show them what we think they want. Wouldn't it save allot of time and heartache if we were just ourselves and didn’t pretend to be something else?? But no instead we all do it, some more then others. I don’t think it is done intentionally to hurt the other person in fact just the opposite but in the end that is exactly what happens...cause they don’t fall in love with you they fall in love with the version of you they were shown and sooner and later the real you will come out.

So I guess what I’m saying is be happy with who you really are and show the world that if you arent truly happy with you then change the things you like but dont expect someone else to change them you have to fix you before there can ever be an us...And when you are truly happy the world can see that.