Ya'know. I've always been the nice guy, until someone provokes me. I have gone without just to help out a friend on a number of occasions. I'm sure that there are some of you that are reading this that know that. I have spent my last penny to buy a friend a pack of smokes. I have quit school, to continue to work more hours, to support a family (my son & a significant other). I have bent over backwards to help out someone else, even sacraficing myself. I don't believe that I have a selfish bone in my body, when it comes to helping those that need it. I have even gone as far as staying a weekend at a friends house, and spending $100+ just from buying them smokes and food, so they wouldn't have to do without. Ok, I'm not a 'wealthy' person, BY FAR, I work 3 days a week, and support my son, and no, I don't have any bills, and don't have anything except to take care of me and my son, so spending the money wasn't an issue, BUT... 3 days later... being accused of being a user?! Being told that I'm a whore, and that I used this 'friend' for GOD knows what. I mean, yeah, we had sex, a few times even. Yes, we discussed dating, and I came to the conclusion, that with this persons temper/anger issues that I have seen him have around others, that I wasn't going to be in another relationship AGAIN, where I got the short end of the stick, because myself or others did something wrong and pissed someone off. I understand because frustrated with people, I understand because aggravated. But to come cuss at me, toward me, etc. whether I did it OR NOT, I'm NOT going to put up with, which is the reason, I decided against dating this person. Needless to say, I thought this person was 'man enough' to understand that I am an adult, and human, and capable of changing my mind. But, apparently, they weren't, and I lost a decent friend out of this mess, and possibly a few more after this is finished being read. But, ya'know, why jeopardize myself, and my wants/needs in life, over someone who can't understand the simple things in life. Alright, so BEFORE the comments that start, lets play EVERYTHING out here........
This person and I were talking about dating. Slept together a few times, I spent the night at his house. Even told him how much I cared about him. We went to Amtgard on Sunday, to hang out, have a good time. There was this guy that showed up, and I was expressing to another 'friend' that I thought he was cute. This guy, was sitting there, with another guy, and they both looked kinda confused. The friend brought it up that she wanted to know who this person was. So, I offered to go over there with her, to talk to them, we went over there, she 'froze' at first, so.. I edged her on, and we all started talking about who he was, where he's from, and of course, about amtgard. I don't recall flirting with this person, might have smiled at him, but flirting? Come on now, you ALL know how much of a flirt I am, but, I can swear on my son's life, that I did not flirt with this guy. Ok, anyways, the guy that I'm dating comes over, and we continue talking, and even include the guy that I'm dating into the conversation. Apparently, he wasn't interested in whatever it was exactly we was talking about, and got up and walked away. A few minutes later, told me that he was ready to leave. So, I asked the 'new amtgard guy' for his number, thinking that I could talk him into coming back to amtgard and being part of the group, because he wasn't feeling it very much. Got his number. Left with the guy that I was thinking about dating. We get say... 50 yards away from the guy, and I get DRILLED for getting the guys phone number. I OFFERED to delete the guys number right then and there, to just let the 'argument' fade away, of course, was told not to worry about it. Then... a few hours later, the subject came up about me getting the guys number A G A I N. And even as far as calling this guy names, etc. So, I decided, before even going to sleep that night, that I'm not going to be with someone that tries to 'control' what I do or talk to, or even fight about it, I've been in relationships all of my life, where I was treated like a child, and that's honestly where I seen it headed, so...
Needless to say, I took an ex's advice from a long time ago, if you see "Red Flags"... There is no point to even move forward in what you are doing. And, when I go and try to explain to this person, my past, and why I felt the way that I did, I got shunned, and told that I used them for sex, that I'm fucking this guy from the park, when, in fact, as most of you know, I don't leave my freaking house for shit. Car or no car. I don't do anything or go anywhere. I know. I'm lame. But anyways, I start talking to the guy about how I feel, one minute, I'm being told that I used him for sex, and then the next, he's telling me how much he cares about me, and wants to work it out, then the next I'm told that I was a liar & a whore. Nevertheless, he couldn't make up his mind on what he wanted, to have me as a friend or not, so... Needless to say, I made the choice for him, because I'm not going to sit and argue with someone to be my friend. I'm a better person than that.
Anyways, the WHOLE reason that I'm blogging is because I got a 'random' message yesterday, telling me "...I don't like what you did to ((guy's name)), you cheating whore...." ...
My questions are:
1. How am I cheating on someone, that I'm NOT DATING, but only talking to, for the POTENTIAL of dating?
2. Isn't a whore someone that sleeps with more than one person at a time?
3. By Definition: proved by Dictionary.com A Whore is a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money; prostitute; harlot; strumpet. ..... And considering the fact that I'm the person that actually 'spent money', wouldn't that make me NOT a whore?
