Well my grandmother fell and broke BOTH femurs (you know the hardest bone in your body-thigh bones). Initially they didnt want to do surgery. Too risky-she willl be 80 on monday, is skin and bones. like 5'7 and maybe 78lbs. so no immune system & she has no muscle/fat on her. they couldnt even get enough blood out of her to check her sugars.
so they decided to try the surgery rather than just let her die. they ended up putting 80 pins into her legs. but the docs said if an infection doesnt kill her, the healing just may. if she heals. so now we sit and wait.
I guess the hardest part is I never had a good relationship with her. she was always quite mean and cruel throuh my entire life. she is old school german-cold hearted and almost totally emotionless. so the guilt has been eating me. I did go and pretty much force her in the most gentle way to see me. so I could tell her that I DO love her and that I hope she is able to recover from her injuries. And if there was anything I could do to have the nurses call me.
Is it too little, too late? I dont know. And even if she gets better and goes back to being a cruel beast, at least she knows that I do love her even though we dont have a loving, happy relationship.