Shavani's blog: "The Beginning Rants"

I'm so sick of hearing the word love being used in such a common way and without meaning. There are people who think that just because they say the words "I love you" that should be enough. What they fail to understand is that words are just words, ACTIONS are what are needed to verify the true meaning. Telling someone you love them and treating them like shit, is not love. Telling someone you love them and selfishly only giving in to YOUR wants and needs, is not love. Telling someone you love them while hitting on another, cheating and sneaking behind someone's back , is not love. Breaking a person's heart and then expecting the person to forgive you and be happy just because you make love to them, is not love. Giving your attention, affection and having sexual desire for someone ELSE, is not love. Only making love to someone when you have a fight or when you are trying to make up for being caught making sexual advances to another, is not love.

Love is wanting to make the other person happy in any way you can. Love is never wanting to cause the other person pain if you can help it. Love is staying faithful to that person, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Love is more than just words, it is actions or in some cases a lack of action (lack of cheating, lack of causing pain, lack of neglect, lack of lies).

Maybe I have unreasonable expectations of what love should be, but those are simply my thoughts on the matter.