Queen Candace's blog: "Fubar (The Good and The Bad)"

MAKE A CHANGE!

After having my photo marked nsfw I took a big step back and look at fubar. Just like anything there is good and bad. The questions that keep popping up in my head are "should i stay?" "should i go" "why?".

I love fubar. I spend a significant amount of time on fubar. I came here to get away from the prying eyes of my family whom are on mspace and fbook. I came here to get away from the enormous amount of fake profiles constantly friend requesting and spamming me. I came here to make friends without having to worry about underage kids being on the site.

Lately among the greedy statuses there are several people deleting and even more remembering the way fubar used to be. There are a lot of people that want change here on fubar. Not because they are greedy. Not because they want something for free. They want change to make fubar a better experience and time for not just them but for others as well. These people either invest a pretty penny into fubar and its members or they have someone else investing in them.

What changed fubar? A few things.

FAKES:

People are beyond tired of investing time, money, and emotions into someone they end up finding out is fake.What frustrates them even more is fubar does nothing about it.After the fake has been busted they just make new friends with unknowing people and start all over again..because they can.

On mspace if there is a profile using photos of you without your permission, you send them a salute. The salute has your myspace user id, the date, your name, and your email. Once they recieve your salute they review both profiles and will delete the profile or remove the photos of you. I have helped several people get fake profiles of them removed. The same goes for many sites like realpic, bebo, facethejury, etc. Yet here on fubar if someone has stolen your photos and is using them for a fake profile, you're s.o.l. IF you have the photos copyrighted then you can contact fubars copyright department, fill out the proper paper work, mail it to them, and have the photos removed. But no one really copyrights their personal photos.

Why are fakes such a big deal? No one likes to be mislead and lied to. This is common with fake profiles. If they will lie about how they look then who knows what else they have lied about. But the biggest part of it is the money factor. Fakes tend to latch on to the kindhearted people on fubar as a way to get free vips, happy hours, bling, bling credits, autos, bombs, blasts, tickers from them. So it really sucks for the users when they find out the person isn't who they say they are.

Quite a few fakes have gone so far as to either have that person fly out to meet them (which is when they figure out the person isn't the person they saw in the pictures) or con them out of actual money (needing money for bills, food, or whatever the excuse is that gets the person to send them money).

Another thing that fakes do  (the biggest thing that pisses me off about fakes) is SELL access to their nsfw photos. Except the photos aren't them, its of the person they are faking. They sell access for bling packs, blasts, tickers, happy hours, etc. It's one thing if they are your photos. But its ILLEGAL to do so if they aren't your photos.

Is it fubars responsibility? No, but they should be part of the solution since it is their site that a good deal of us put our money into. It's all on you if you spend money on someone from fubar. It's your money. But more times then not when you've been burned by a fake the finger is often pointed at fubar and the user is left with a sour taste in their mouth for fubar. To some degree fubar should do something about the fakes.

I'm not saying fubar should go on a witch hunt and delete all the fakes. But there have been times where i've presented the ORIGINAL salute of users that have a fake yet verified salute of. All fubar does is  unverify the salute. But its left in their photos for other people to see. Not everyone can tell if a salute is fake or not. Not even the ones that approve them.

If the original owner of the photos submits a salute stating they are not on fubar along with their contact info, the fake profiles should be deleted.They broke the T.O.S in which they agreed to stating that their photos are their own which is grounds for deletion.

SALUTES:

What is the point of having guidelines for salutes if they don't have to be followed by everyone? One of the guidelines is that your face has to be visible. Yet I see a lot of profiles with verified salutes where you can barely tell if the person in the salute is the same as the person in the photos. Another one of the guidelines is NO black and white salutes. I see more and more black and white salutes that have been verified every day. I could easily submit a salute in color then submit the same salute in black & white and have them both verified. No biggie right? Except for the fact that its WAY easier to fake a black and white salute then it is to fake one in color.

Maybe people that approve or deny salutes should take a salute test before given that power lol. Don't get me wrong I know some amazing bouncers, but someone is approving salutes that don't follow the guidelines.

RATES:

To me this is one of the biggest things that changed fubar for the worse. We all understand why the rate speed was changed. Like always some jackass had to ruin it for everyone. But the time limit put on the rating now has users to the point where they barely rate anyone but people with autos. At least cut 2-3 seconds off that wait time. The less people rate the less time they spend on fubar. It would be nice to be able to rate just a little bit faster. I think just about everyone would agree with that. Not everyone has hours and hours to waste a way rating.

Since the rating time limit has been changed more and more people offer to pay you fubucks just so they can get some rates.

SPAM:

If you rate the newbies then you've most likely been contacted by a YIM whore. If your a newbie then without a doubt you've been contacted by a YIM whore. These fake profiles created by cam sites/adult sites leaving you a comment, pm, shout saying something like "hey sexy! i'm looking for some new friends to chat with me. Send me a yim on imadirtycamwhore@yahoo.com". I have heard several stories about people actually contacting them. They then give you a link to their cam site that they want you to join to cam with them. Cam sites like that are just about ALWAYS a pay site. Last I recall fubar is a spam free site.

PERVERTS:

You jackasses scare people off so fast it's not even funny. A new person joins and uploads their picture  and within moments your in their shoutbox trying to dirty talk to them. GET A LIFE. Just because you have to be 18 or older to join DOESN'T mean we're all perverts. YES we have our moments and YES we may chose to be perverted with someone we're interested in on here. But seriously this is why your single and on the prowl on fubar. This site is a way for adults to stay connected. It's a place for us to get away from the children on the internet. A place where the adults can have fun playing games and working on leveling while they make new friends. Sure you can have nsfw photos but they must be marked so those of us that set our profile to not show nsfw material won't have to see your genitals. There's a reason why you can set your veiwing to SAFE FOR WORK or NOT SAFE FOR WORK.

I know a lot of you miss the good ol' days. You miss everyone coming on here to make friends and helping eachother level. How about sticking together like friend the friends you claim to be  and trying to get fubar to change for the better. When I look at my bartab all I ever see anymore is gimme gimme gimme. There are always several people looking to buy autos, bombs, tickers, blasts, vips, and happy hours with their fubucks.Theres always a handful of people looking for a hand out and help leveling. There is always someone begging for something.

It's not just the bartab though. I've had complete strangers shout me either asking or TELLING me to bling them. Sure i've been known to put in my status that i'd like a certain bling. But I do not beg and I do bling back when I have the credits available or I repay the person in another way (rates, salutes, my free ticker).

Perhaps fubar should give users the opportunity to once a month buy a bling pack with their fubucks. Not enough credits to buy big bling. But enough that if they used fubucks for some credits and dished out the $$ for a regular bling pack they could afford the bling they've been eyeing and craving. It would be like a fudiscount. Or give us some kind of way that once a month or so we can get a discount on bling credits. How about if you send someone a bling pack you get a certain amount of free credits. Example: you buy a friend a $20 bling pack and fubar gives you the bonus free bling credits instead. Maybe if fubar did it that way it would be a win win for everyone and people would be more inclined to toss a bling pack to a friend since they are getting something as well.

My point of this blog is not to bitch and complain about fubar and the members. It's to get the members to stand up and tell fubar they want a change. Members invest their money in this site so they have the right to want a change. Changes only come when voices are heard and the demand for the change is high.

What would you like to see changed? Even if its something thats listed in this blog, contact the fubar support profile and send them a quick pm. If we try and nothing comes of it, at least we know we tried.

I won't be here for long if changes don't happen. I won't keep busting fakes and having nothing come of it.

Every day I have people on my profile asking me to bust someone. Every day I have people on my profile asking me to vote for their mumm or them in a contest. Every day I have people in my shoutbox begging me for something. And I help because thats what you do on fubar. You help your friends out. I rarely ask or get anything in return.

This is me asking you, the ones I've helped and will help. Will you help make a change or will you be part of the problem?

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog!