UNTIL TODAY
Written By Iyanla Vanzant
I will gain more understanding when I realize.....
loving in unloving ways is not love at all.
You can usually tell when someone is afraid of love. They simply will
not let you into their heart. A person who is afraid of love will
behave in the most inappropriate ways in an effort to turn you off. A
person who is afraid of love will find all sorts of things wrong with
who they are and will point these things out to you. They will also
find all sorts of things wrong with you, which they will also point
out. People who are afraid of love cannot give it, nor can they
receive it. They will have so many barriers and defenses that you
will end up asking yourself, Why am I trying to get through this
stuff?????
A person who is afraid of love may believe that they will not measure
up to what you expect of them. Often, this is because they have not
lived up to what they expect of themself. A person who is afraid of
love will pull you in and out like a yo=yo! Today they want you,
Tomorrow they won't. The closer you get, the faster they run. The
more you give the more they want. You will never be able to prove
yourself to a person who is afraid of love because they do not want
to believe you!
When you find yourself trying your darnest to love a person who
demontrates that they are not willing to be loved, stop yourself!
Stop trying to force them to accept what they obviously do not want
or cannot handle. Stop making excuses for them. Stop accepting their
excuses. It is very unloving to push someone beyond the point they
are willing to go.
Until today, you may not have understood that trying to love someone
who does not want to be loved is an invasion. Or that an invasion is
not a loving act. Just for today, ask yourself if you are trying to
force love on someone. If the love you are offering another is not
being welcomed or invited in, back up!
TODAY I AM DEVOTED TO RECOGNIZING THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVING
SOMEONE AND INVADING THEIR HEART SPACE.
