This is a conversation I had on messenger today with one of my guy friends.......Made me think alot.....:D Thought I would share.
Him- "What do you think love is?"
-me- " Depends, what type we talking here?"
- "All types. Is there really a difference?"
-me- " You are such a man. Of course. You don't love your family the same way you would love a lover."
- " Ok then. Say you were "in" love... how do you define it?"
-me- "Well considering you COULD define it I would have to say....................... love is allowing another to care for you unconditionally without rules or boundaries and in turn being allowed to do so."
- " I guess. I don't know I always saw love as that fire, you know?"
-me- " That's not love, thats attraction. Granted I'm a firm believer that you shouldn't invest fully into a relationship unless its got the passion to keep you there. But fire, lust, passion? Its all attraction. It's seeing something interesting and alluring in another's personality or character. And in that case, can you love without attraction or even attract and love differently? Or is it all love?"
- "You girls think way to much about this stuff."
-me- " Listen I can have my night of great sex without attachment just as any guy but, its never really unattached. There is always something that sparks that desire. And its not a girl thing though I can speak for my kind in saying it is over-thought, Its human nature. Personality. Attraction. What causes someone to love another? I'm the first to admit to being a hard core romantic in a relationship... but in my recent thoughts I found its all scientific. There is no romance. That's all for fairy tales and living happily ever after."
- " And now??? Is it still all down to a science? Or could an optimist still hope for the possibility that somewhere, someone is getting their fairytale? "
-me- (sighs) "Well, I may not be living happily ever after, but...... I haven't given up on my fairy tale or my Prince Charming. Not yet at least. I guess I am just waiting for my heart to prove my head wrong."
So boys and girls, Tell me....How do YOU define love? How do you define attraction? Just wondering where your heads are at. Love Ya.
