"Who I'm Looking For" My soul mate, if their's a such thing, I don't believe in love at first sight , but their is a such thing as ATTRACTION at first sight!!! There really is no such thing as love at first sight. At first sight all you can tell is the clothes they chose from their closet, and the way their parents created their genetic code that seems pleasing to you. In all likelihood they remind you of someone else, or of a movie character. That's hardly something to base a relationship on. Wait until you really get to know what makes this person unique. Find out their hopes and dreams, and not just what you hope and dream they might be like. When you really get to know someone, and accept them despite their flaws, that is when true love sets in. One of the most important parts of love is holding the trust of your lover. If you're stuck in the rain, and your partner goes out of his way to come to get you, that is what love is all about. If you two wanted to go out to dinner but you're stuck home with the kids, your partner will order some pizza or cook supper at home , order some movies on pay-per-view or from Blockbuster and make it a fun night in. Relationships are about fully trusting your partner, and being able to rely on him or her. If your partner isn't there for the small things in life, this doesn't ensure they'll be around for any larger issues which might come along either. It's how your partner deals with the rough spots that really counts - anybody can be an angel in paradise. There's an old saying - you like someone "because". "Because" they have blue eyes, or a pretty smile, or a cute nose. You love someone "even though." Even though he's not rich, even though she's not an excellent cook. Liking means you're fond of their good traits. Love means you accept them fully even though they're not perfect. It's easy to show your love when you're both feeling great and are happy. If your partner sits besides you when you're sick, and soothes you when you're tired and cranky, *that* is being a trooper! A partner who cares for you even when it's not all sunny is showing his/her love in one of the truest ways. Someone who's NOT MATERIALISTIC, someone who's loving , kind , caring, loyal, faithful, supportive, dependable, reliable, trustworthy, honest,has NO DRAMA IN THEIR LIFES, someone with a great personality with looks to match, someone who's not shallow to the point where all their looking for is money or someone who's a perfect 10 in looks (personally I think I'm a 7 or 8) , must have long hair.....And MOST IMPORTANT weather or not if I'm in a relationship the woman I date needs to understand that I have female friends online that I chat with maybe flirt or talk friendly with but U need to realize that we're just friends here online , we may use words like honey, beautiful, sexy, or say love ya or something to that affect, I don't want a woman who is so insecure that she'll get jealous like that last psycho I was with (yeah the lying, cheating , verbally emotionally and physically abusive whore that sucks the life out of you like a succubus) I want someone who is secure , mature, drug free, loyal, faithful, and most of all HONEST, not a pathological liar, someone who doesn't depend on any man financially, basically U get the picture.........I HOPE!!!! I am in a relationship . I tend to flirt ALOT but it doesn't mean I want to hook up with you.