How to increase a womans desire for you?
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Category: Romance and Relationships
>NEWS JUST IN: If you're interested in the topic
of DESIRE, and how to make a woman feel it for
you, then you need to learn how ATTRACTION works.
If you don't know this amazing secret, then you
might want to check THIS out before you read the
rest of this newsletter:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//SexualCommunication/
>>>QUESTION OF THE WEEK:
You are a saint. A giant among insects... Ok,
maybe not, but it gets through the obligatory ass-
kissing since you have helped me so much. Let me
begin...
I've had my eyes on this particular girl for quite
some time, and I could tell she was already into
me quite a bit, but we had never made anything of
it. Last week, she decided to "be bold" and ask ME
out, instead of the other way around (you can see
I'm already doing something right). She asked if I
wanted to go see a movie some time; instead of
freaking out and jumping at the chance, I said I'm
rather tired of this whole 'movie date' thing. If
she wanted to get me, she was going to have to be
a little more creative. She was rather shocked and
felt somewhat rejected. Later in the conversation,
we were got to talking about this stalker (wussy
who needs a life) that seems to be in love with
her, and she hates him. He had asked her if she
wanted to accompany him to a football game the
next night that they both were already going to.
She said she really wished that I would come with
her so this guy would leave her alone. I thought,
"Ok. This will be my good deed for the year." and
said I would go. She ends up driving me to the
game. Upon arrival, she just HAD to braid her
hair, and asked me to wait around while she did
so. I stood there for a second, and then walked
off. She started yelling at me to wait; I simply
replied, "I'll see you inside the gate." waved and
walked off. Once inside, I didn't see her come in,
but soon felt someone grab my butt (it was her).
We went on into the stadium, she soon saw someone
she knew and went to talk to them, dragging me
along. I stood around for a second, then wandered
off, since I had seen someone I knew as well. She
comes to find me soon, and we go off to our seats.
Her stalker had seen us as we were going to our
seats and decided to stay with us for part of the
night. She began talking to him, and I did my own
thing. I wandered off numerous times throughout
the night and generally acted very secure and like
I didn't need a thing in the world (especially
her!). Following the game, as we walked back to
her car I could tell that she wanted me badly due
to some things she had been saying. She drove me
back to where my car was waiting and we talked for
twenty minutes or so in her car. There was some
hand holding and such going on during the
conversation. She said, "You know we're just going
to end up making out-you're just delaying the
inevitable." Bingo. I shrugged it off, and we
continued talking. About ten minutes later, she
said, "It's getting late; I really should be
getting home." Obviously a ploy to get things
started, as it was only 10:15 PM. I shrugged it
off, again. A few minutes pass, and she says,
"It's late, I really need to go." I say,
"Alright." I open the door and get out of the car.
She says, "Where are you going?" I reply
nonchalantly, "I just don't think you want it
badly enough yet." Score ..2. I walk off to my car;
she immediately jumps out of the car and begins
walking to my car as well. I get to the car and
put the key in the door and she sticks her leg in
front of the door with this defiant attitude. I
say, "You know, I've never been raped in an empty
parking lot before..."
You can imagine what went on from there? J
Thanks Dave.
Now, on to the questions: First, now that I've
used my best line ever ("I just don't think you
want it badly enough yet."), do you have any
suggestions on what to do and say next time to
create that same anticipation/desire in her?
Also, you always say that I need to be the first
to end the conversation, but many of the girls
that I am interested in are somewhat sporadic and
tend to call, IM, etc. when they don't have a lot
of time. Quite often, they are the ones to end the
conversation before I have a chance to. How do I
take this? Should I just reply, "Alright. I'll
catch you later." Acting like I could care less?
D. Knoxville, TN
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Great story.
I'm sure that anyone reading this would say
"Yeah, but she already liked you"... I wish you
would have told the story from the beginning,
because I'll bet you MADE her like you with more
of the same type communication that you described
here.
The one thing that you clearly understand here
is how SEXUAL TENSION works.
You understand how to take a small spark of
desire from her and AMPLIFY it until it's
literally EXPLOSIVE.
If you keep amplifying and letting the tension
build with a particular woman, this is the kind of
result you'll get... and she will LOVE you for it.
Bravo!
Things like making her come up with a more
"interesting" date idea, walking away from her
when other guys would have clung to her, shrugging
off her comments about the two of you getting
together, etc. are the magic ingredients.
Most guys DESTROY all the sexual tension at
every possible opportunity... they take every
chance they can to SCREW THINGS UP because they
don't know better...
The fact is that most men just don't UNDERSTAND
how women get turned on.
And most men don't understand that if you
really want a woman to WANT you, then you NEED to
get her turned on. It's not going to happen by
itself.
Hey, if you want to learn more about how to
create this thing I'm calling "Sexual Tension",
and more about how to get women turned on, then go
here now:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//SexualCommunication/
Here's another interesting aspect of that thing
called ATTRACTION:
The bigger the challenge you are, and the more
intense the sexual tension, the more aroused a
woman will become... so that when you finally do
connect physically it's pure electricity.
Again, most men can't HANDLE sexual tension.
They feel uncomfortable when the situation isn't
"clear cut", and they screw things up.
One of the things you mentioned doing was
"shrugging off" her obvious "come ons" to you.
This kind of thing makes no sense to most guys.
But it makes sense to me.
And it made a LOT of sense to HER.
When a woman throws out a sexual comment, etc.
most guys screw it up. That's because they don't
know the SECRET about these types of comments.
When you're a major challenge, it naturally
means that she's not IN CONTROL of the situation.
Attractive women are USED to being in control,
so when they're NOT in control, they get agitated.
It really bothers them.
So they TEST. They use all kinds of interesting
tricks and tactics to see if you're just FAKING
like you're actually in control of yourself and
the situation.
One of the most obvious tests is throwing out a
sexual comment.
She might mention that she loves sex, or that
she thinks you guys have a chance of "hooking up",
or some other "tease".
But make no mistake about it, these comments
are not at all the innocent remarks that they
appear to be.
She's watching VERY closely to see if you'll
take the bait.
It's a woman's last resort when she feels like
she isn't controlling the situation to see if
you'll crumble to SOMETHING. -- If you say
something like, "Really? You think we're going to
hook up? That would be cool." Then she KNOWS SHE'S
IN CONTROL.
If you say, "Yeah, you think so? I don't know,
I'm not that easy..." then it just dials up the
tension, mystery, and challenge.
OK, so you've asked me a couple of questions as
well...
What should you do NEXT time you see her to
keep the tension building...?
Well, if something works, KEEP DOING IT.
If she enjoyed it the first time, do it again.
This time wait a little longer. Make her think
about it a little bit more.
Women LOVE anticipation. They love to feel the
rush that something is going to happen... but not
know WHEN.
If you REALLY want to take things to the next
level, take a page from popular movies and romance
novels.
Don't just kiss her. Kiss her PASSIONATELY.
Pull her body into yours as you kiss her.
Then push her away and say, "You're bad!"
Stop for awhile. Make her think about it. Then
start again when she isn't expecting it.
These are the types of things that make women
think about you all the time when you're gone...
and call you in the middle of the night because
they want to see you. Really.
Most men are so damn BORING when it comes to
this stuff! They do NOTHING to make a woman FEEL
the powerful feelings that she's always wanted to
feel.
You be the one to do it, and you'll be the one
she always wants around.
Your second question was about ending calls and
conversations first.
The REASON why you should end all conversations
and other interactions with women first is that it
conveys a clear message:
"I'M A BUSY GUY. I HAVE A LIFE."
It turns YOU into the one that's desirable.
Most guys cling, and try to keep a woman on the
phone for a long time. They desire a woman's
attention and approval, and they make it clear
that this is what they're after.
Of course, this only demonstrates pure WEAKNESS
to an attractive woman.
And weakness (or Wussness) isn't ATTRACTIVE.
If you run into a woman who's always on the
run, don't let it get to you. To put it
differently, don't become obsessed with her just
because she's never available!
The answer is to just take things to the next
level.
Here's a GREAT little technique...
An amazing and simple way to handle this kind
of thing is to just say "OK, bye" without any
other comments.
She says "I have to go, my friends are waiting
for me outside". Just say "OK, bye" and SHUT UP.
80% of the time, she'll say "No, wait! I'm just
really busy, call me in a few days" etc.
You can't "kind of" do this.
You have to be READY.
She's TESTING you by playing hard to get. It's
a game. Have fun with it.
As soon as she says "I have to go, my laundry
is in the dryer", you SHOOT back "OK, bye" in a
VERY abrupt tone and SHUT UP.
It will create a funny, uncomfortable silence
for just a second.
Most of the time, she'll say something in a
tone of voice that says "That was weird", and then
she'll give some kind of explanation or ask you
why you were so short with her.
Of course, this is a great opportunity to bust
her balls and create some fun banter.
Again, you'll often have her say something like
"I'm really busy right now. I'm sorry. Call me
tomorrow and let's do something". At this point,
you can say "Yeah, if you're lucky. Bye!"
Not cold. Not mean. Just short and to the
point.
Then, when you call her next, it was HER that
asked for the call.
You get to call up and say "Well, last time we
talked you were begging me to call you... and I
felt so bad for you that I finally broke down."
What we're talking about here is DESIRE... and
more importantly, INCREASING IT.
In most interactions with women there is an
opportunity to SPARK the chemistry... the sexual
tension... the desire... and then there are many
opportunities to AMPLIFY that desire.
But here's the BAD news:
If you do not understand all of the little
steps from the first meeting to the bedroom, and
know exactly how to smoothly progress from one
step to the next, then you're going to keep
failing with women.
It's that simple.
If you DO understand all of the steps, and you
know EXACTLY what to do in order to smoothly
transition from one to the next, then you are MUCH
more likely to succeed.
One of the most IMPORTANT steps is controlling
your own emotions. If you're nervous and freaked
out, then you'll make her nervous.
We humans can SMELL fear and nervousness... and
women are the best at it.
If you'd like to get an ADVANCED education in
how to control your own emotions, how to spark
ATTRACTION, and how to go from one step to the
next smoothly, then I recommend you check out my
Advanced Dating Techniques program.
It's over 12 full hours of me teaching all of
my very best theories, concepts, and strategies
for becoming more successful with women and
dating.
What makes my program different?
Two things:
1) It's easy to understand and use IMMEDIATELY.
2) It "feels right". In other words, you'll learn
how to use the natural dynamics in any situation
to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you... without
having to MANIPULATE her "secretly".
As you learn the concepts and techniques and
begin to use them in situations with women, you
will see women LIGHT UP in front of you.
You'll IMMEDIATELY notice the different way
that they respond to your comments.
You'll begin to see all of the reasons why you
failed in the past, and you'll understand the "one
right thing" to do in each situation... so that
you move FORWARD and stay in control of the
situation.
Most of all, it will give you the CONFIDENCE to
attract the kinds of women that most men only
dream about dating.
I'm telling you, I used to have no clue about
attracting women... but now that I do, I can date
any type of women I want. And it's a damn good
feeling.
All the details of my program are here, along
with some great free samples:
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If you've gone through my Advanced Series, and
you think that you might need more focus on the
"Inner Game"... then you MUST check out my "Deep
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Go and watch the preview video clips for this
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And if you'd like an introduction to my main
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. I've written the story of how I learned to
meet women, and included a personal description of
each of my different programs... plus put some
video clips of my different programs right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//Catalog/
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