Dynimite's blog: "Tips about Realationships"

How Guys "Screw Up" First Dates... -------------------------------------------------- To safely and permanently exclude yourself from future mailings just click the link at the end of this newsletter. To sign yourself up for this complimentary e-letter, visit www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com -------------------------------------------------- >Are you interested in becoming a MASTER of meeting and attracting women? Would you like to learn how to approach women, get numbers, get dates, and take things to a "physical" level without rejection? Then go and check THIS out: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/Catalog/ I get a lot of guys who write in to ask me how to behave around women. Many of those questions focus on the first meeting or the first date. I thought I'd devote one entire newsletter to a concept that I feel is VITAL to understand if you're wondering how to behave around a woman you've just met. A MISTAKE ALMOST EVERY GUY MAKES... I've noticed a KEY difference between the way men and women act when they meet a "potential mate". Women usually act in a way that can be characterized like this: "You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know you better, and we can see where this goes." Men usually act in a way that can be characterized like this: "I am so interested in you that I'm nervous. In fact, I'm already thinking of you as a potential girlfriend or wife... or at least a one-night stand." In other words, women are usually casual and laid-back when they're first meeting a guy... But GUYS tend to act like every girl is a POTENTIAL WIFE. As you can imagine, this creates a lot of tension and pressure. And I'm not talking about the GOOD kind, either. I'm talking about the kind that makes men shiver and shake with nervousness, and women feel uncomfortable because the MAN is acting uncomfortable. I KNOW that you can relate to this in some way. THE ANSWER... The simple solution to this is... DON'T DO IT. If you start acting all freakish and nervous when you're talking to a woman, you're probably going to screw things up before they've even had a chance to get started. Treating a woman that you've just met as if she very well could be the love of your life is something you should NEVER do. Instead, take a very different approach. My favorite is to ASSUME that every woman has SOMETHING that's going to annoy me, bother me, or SCREW UP HER CHANCES with me. The MAIN reason that I do this... SURPRISE... IS THAT IT'S TRUE! Duh. The fact is that MOST women are NOT compatible "long term" with most men. In other words, if you do get into a long-term relationship with a particular woman, the chances are that she's going to have things about her that you don't like. One of my favorite Cocky & Funny themes to follow is, "You're screwing up your chances with me". Let's say I'm walking down the street with a girl to have a cup of tea. Let's assume that she and I just met the night before, I got her number, and now we're walking from my place to tea. On the way in the door to the coffee shop, she trips over the doorway. I might look at her, shake my head in an "overly dramatic fake annoyed" way, and say, "This relationship just isn't going to work". Then, let's say fifteen minutes later, she spills her tea on the table and herself. I'll shake my head again and say, "What did I tell you about this kind of behavior?". In other words, I'm communicating the very OPPOSITE of "You're a potential wife". I'm saying, "I'm so comfortable around you that I can even make fun of you without caring what you think of me". Does this sound a little crazy? Good. It should. But trust me. If you spend a couple of hours having regular, normal conversation... being Cocky & Funny, enjoying yourself, NOT trying to impress her, and generally demonstrating that you could care less how things turn out, you'll be FAR more likely to take things further than if you act as if she might be the love of your life and you wind up acting so nervous, stilted, and DUMB that she runs away. By the way, if you'd like to "fine tune" your Cocky & Funny skills, then you should take a minute and check this out right now: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/CockyComedy/ So here it is again... one thing that most guys who are unsuccessful with women do that screws things up... one thing to AVOID: DON'T TREAT A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST MET AS IF SHE'S A POTENTIAL FUTURE WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND. Instead, lean back. Be cool. Make jokes about her screwing up her chances with you. Tell her that she's a nice friend. Assume that she has qualities that are going to annoy you, then point them out (in a Cocky & Funny way, of course). Don't lose your composure. It can be fatal if you do. Another note: Most guys don't "get" women. And, unfortunately, most guys look for tricks and "pick up lines" when it comes time to LEARN how to meet women. They don't realize that all the tricks in the world aren't going to help them if they don't UNDERSTAND what's "going on". That's where my Advanced Dating Techniques Program comes in... The first segment of the program is entirely focused on your "Inner Game". In other words, it's focused on helping you "get" what's going on. This program goes into DEPTH about all aspects of psychology and behavior of men and women... and teaches you from the ground up. You must get rid of some of your bad programming before you can get GOOD programming. In other words, I KNOW that you need to learn how to NOT do things like treating a woman as if she might be your future wife... and I teach you how to avoid these big mistakes... and there are many. Of course, I also teach a TON of specific techniques. Hundreds, in fact. You will get over 12 solid hours of digital video and/or audio of me teaching everything from the ground up on how to take things all the way from beginning, to end... from the first meeting, through the first date... all the way to the bedroom, and beyond. You'll learn how to overcome your limiting beliefs about women... how to eliminate your fears of talking to women... how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you, even if you don't have money or looks, etc. In other words, it's a complete system. You'll learn everything you need to know in order to start meeting and dating more women IMMEDIATELY. All the details, and some educational preview video clips of the program are here: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/ ...and if you STILL haven't downloaded your copy of my original eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to do that now. It's jam packed with dozens and dozens of my personal techniques for meeting and dating women, and it comes with THREE great bonus booklets that aren't available anywhere else. And right now you can download it FREE, and try it out before you buy. Go download it here: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/eBook/ I'll talk to you again in a couple of days. Your Friend, David D. P.S. I've also put together a website where you can watch sample video clips of all my different programs, plus learn about how I created each of them. It's right here: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/Catalog/ P.P.S. If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines: 1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max. 2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works" comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of the specifics... because this helps other guys to see what's working in different situations. 3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in the subject line of the email. I read these first. 4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell me where you're from. 5) Send it to me at: SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com ...don't just hit "reply" to this email. Thanks!