If I give you a gift, but have some expectation of you in return, it’s not really a gift, it’s Commerce.
And I rob myself of the joy of completely unfettered giving.
When I give without expectations, I can experience the joy of knowing I made a difference in your life, no matter how small, and I will never be disappointed about what you do or don't do as a result, because I gave with no expectations.
This did not come naturally to me, but once I learned it, I began a whole new chapter in my life.