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To put it short and sweet (or bitter sweet), I have 3 kids, which anyone who knows me or has read my profile or looked at some of my pics, is obvious. My 5 year old son, my baby, starts school this fall. His dad and I have been divorced for 2 years this fall. Custody, for the school years, has not yet been determined. Why? Well, as much as I applaud his father being a caring and loving father, he is also trying to gain full custody of our son. I give him "kudos" for caring enough to want to be a part of his life. He seems to feel that he could provide a better home for our son. A better life. His reason, because, at his place, Kody (my son) would be the center of attention, the center of his fathers world. There would be no "sharing of time with siblings". He wouldn't have to share his love and affection among 3 kids as I would have to and have been doing since the day I found out I was pregnant. He also thinks it would be easier on me.. because I have my older two children to make up for Kody not being here. He believes it would hurt me less to have Kody with his father than it would hurt him to have Kody with me.
As much as I can "see" where he may get that point of view. Its not true. NOT AT ALL!! I hate it when Kody isn't with me. It kills me inside when he isn't around. For the past 2 years, Kody has been living in two states. 3 months with me, then the next 3 months with his father, and so on. Rotating every other Christmas. This was our agreement for the time that he wasn't in school. That way, no parent was without Kody for 6 months at a time, and we split the cost of Kody's airplane ticket. The distance between parents... 2000 miles.
The courts ordered us to talk about it and try to come to an agreement for school on our own. I have been attempting that for a while now. I finally got him to talk to me, and that was 3 weeks ago.
He never called back, never returned my phone calls, and so on. Well. Today he called. Informed me that he wasn't going to talk about it anymore. He would be ok letting a complete stranger decide where our son should go to school. He has decided to come up with lies about me and my family and believe them as truths to justify this decision he made to not continue the talks we just started.
School here lets out next week. Kindergarten registration has passed and can be done at anytime, but it would have to be last minute. My time with Kody is coming to a close as the end of June approaches fast. With the decision of where he will be with school, it will affect where he is for the remainder of the summer. Plane tickets needing to be bought.
I am waiting to hear from my attorney on getting the court date set so that I may plan for this. Affadavits, letters of thoughts, witnesses and such, will all have to make arrangements as I have to fly to court 2k miles.
Days of decisions. Nights of no sleep. Thoughts of my son.
With all of those around me that are here for me, in support of me, are friends or family to me, why.. why is it that... I feel... so alone at this time when I know I have people around me that care. No one in my family has ever gone through an outright custody battle that I am. Although I know that no two custody battles are alike, no one has ever contested custody. Why is this happening to me?
I am a good parent. Not perfect, but who is. My kids are healthy. I don't beat them. I don't abuse or neglect them. They are well taken care of. I know Kody would be taken care of at his fathers, but I want him here. With me and his brother and his sister, his friends, and not to mention his family that is close here.
I know I am selfish to some level on this. I still want him to have a relationship with his father. He would have that. I would make sure of it and see to it.
Crossing My Fingers... I want my son!!!
With Much Love To All..
~AngL~
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