MidnightMarauder the Nocturnal One's blog: "The Gemini Mind"

As things are forever changing certain things that used to be the norm are replaced by something that is nothing like the previous....hence changing times....but there are some things that once changed, the whole meaning, purpose is looked at differently.......case in point, it was once cool to be considered a Gentleman......meaning that being a gentleman, you actually paid attention to what your parents enshrined in you from the beginning and have brought that into your adulthood and have a great life.....respected and highly thought of. But these days the meaning and even feeling has changed where as you were still considered a man by expressing your feelings back then now even the slightest concern for anything (that's not money) will get you funny looks and your manhood questioned like all of a sudden just because you stop to care about somebody you don't really know your laughed at and called soft.....now don't get me wrong there are situations where being considerate gets taken advantage of by the very ones you try to help, but just because it's you, your labeled as a bleeding heart...........even now as some read this they have pretty much made up their minds and think of me as "whiny" and "crying" and those are the ones who always think "their way" is right and that if everyone else thought like that then things would be so simple. You see it's not just the men that get like that, now more than ever women think that being a nice guy is borderline gay and if they get with the guy then they'll do everything in their power to change him...make him harder, cause who wants to be with a soft guy right? but sometimes when that guy who is nice at first gets changed it backfires on the woman and then gets truly dark...I won't go there cause there will be those that say oh she deserved it or whatever but (and you can quote me on this) no man should ever have the right to raise his hand to a women ever, regardless if she provoked him or is heartless and cold....now I'm not saying sit there and take it but if she is trying to get a rise outta you then just leave her sight, just leave, cause the longer you stand there that anger will build up inside you and your life will take on a new, darker form which will only destroy you in the end, there will always be people both male and female who will challenge us but it takes a real man to stand up and respond (not by violence) but by showing courage and respect....and of course the willingness to swallow their ego so that a pissing contest never happens in the first place. Even after all of that some men are looked upon as weak and babyish. Now I've seen what happens when people have made up their minds about you without so much as going deeper and finding out more, but because times call for hardcore, we not only keep the traditions that were passed on by fathers who only learned that a good woman was an obedient woman but are teaching our kids of today the same things, that way of thinking (believe it or not) still is around due to the fact that the women are staying with these guys and take beatings in front of their kids not knowing that what they are witnessing is that dangerous cycle continuing.......but there is a bright side to this some of the ones who get it in their heads not to go that route and break that cycle, cause it's not who they want to emulate when they grow up.........now something about me that most of you don't know I am one of those kids, never knowing my father (couldn't even tell you what he looks like) and seeing not only my mother go through hell and back but my neighbors, aunts, friends...you name it. I grew up really quick when it came to men and women and I never wanted to become a monster, I feel you can get your point across without raising your voice in a calm and cool manner...and people will respect you for not blowing your top...but as I said before there will always be people who thrive on conflict and will not rest till they see you blow up....I've had many try....hell and I'm sure they'll keep trying but you wouldn't believe the amount it takes to turn my smile into a frown, but the fact I never showed them what they wanted made them look at me as half a man, or not good enough and left for somebody else...only to realize that what they had with me was extremely rare and won't happen again. If you took a survey of a hundred women and ask them what they look for in a man you'll hear things like stable, career-oriented, good father to his kids, but the one you'll hear most is a man that's not weak or what is more commonly know as thug, or gangster and that's fine but for a min let's see what that word truly means shall we?  a thug is defined as a cruel, ruffian, a hoodlum...to me that means you can't be a thug and call yourself a family man?.......being cruel means that you care about nothing not even yourself....now there are small instances where a person stops being a thug once he finds that right person and has a child of his own.....but you also got the ones that have lots of kids and still claim to be....but you can't be a thug and be there for your kids....either you are or you aren't no if, ands, or buts about it, ones that see what they hold in their hands is the future and realize the job they have to do is what a real man is all about......"Real men" don't boast, brag, or gloat....."Real men" do without recognition
and lead by example, cause the term "Real man" has also lost it's true meaning to some who never knew a real man only these lil boys who want to be a man soo bad that when they are one they wish to be lil boys again making things worse cause now you got two types of kids the grown kind and the lil kind.........

Now the day I have children they will hear tales of their dad who has seen the error of his male influences and took a stand to change them not only for his benefit but for his kids as well and that should I have sons, I will teach them that being a gentleman is not weak, whiny, or emo but it is a symbol, a badge of honor that makes the person hold their head up high and can be looked upon with integrity, respect and confidence. Those who think gentlemen are a dying breed know this we are still out there and one day when the world is ready for us to return to the mainstream we will, but until then we'll watch, observe, and teach those who will listen to be something they will be proud of and not what the world expects them to be, cause there is still a world where it's ok to care for a stranger whom we hardly know and help her after everyone else thinks she's not worth looking at, much less helping, the person you help today will be there for you when you need a hand. And to the closed-minded people who read this...(or didn't even bother) just because one shows that he cares doesn't mean he's weak instead of judging maybe you can learn a thing or two and not get talked about by people who do something with their lives....males and females alike who take my kindness for softness are sadly missing out on what it means to be truly compassionate and that one out of ten of people who have feelings know that caring and compassionate people are more sought after than a person who only wants to get as much they can for themselves anyday...............

To be Concluded