Being a people pleaser is an emotionally draining and often painful existence. I don't know what it is, but something deep inside you feels the need to try to keep everyone you come in contact with happy in some form or another. The need to please consumes your mind and soul. The need to please is so great that you are willing to make yourself miserable in order to please another. When you feel the need to put forth the effort to please, you can't help but to put your whole heart and soul into it. Everything a people pleaser does to try to please, they do with an intense burning passion. Which I'm sure is the reason rejection hurts so bad.
Rejection is a people pleasers worst fear. We can accept the small everyday rejections life has to offer. But when it comes to rejection from people we try hard to please, that kind of rejection can crush a people pleasers soul. A people pleaser is a very emotional, poetic, romantic and passionate person. Emotions drive us to do everything we do in life. I guess you might say a people pleaser wears their heart on their sleeve. It is very easy for a people pleaser to be emotionally hurt because we put our heart and soul into everything we do.
People pleasers will allow those we are trying to please to repeatedly hurt us and we will always keep trying to please, no matter how bad it hurts. Something as simple as a broken promise is enough to deeply wound a people pleaser. We often perceive rejection when none is there. Postponement feels like rejection. When someone asks a people pleaser to wait to please, it tortures our mind and soul.
People pleasers often get taken advantage of because it is so hard for us to say no. We feel if we say no to the person we are trying to please they will never come back and then we would have to face another rejection.
For a people pleaser life is like walking on egg shells, you must take extreme caution not to break any because broken shells are not happy shells. All efforts and thoughts are concentrated at all times on the shells, no matter how bad it hurts to walk on them we do it anyway. Constantly tending to the shells, making sure their every need is met so they don't break and go away.
Most people will never know what it truly feels like to be a people pleaser.
